If you’ve never met me or heard of me, then this page is for you. When I work with clients, I often begin by asking them three questions: who are you, what do you do, and what do you want/need to have to be happy. If the answers to those questions are in alignment, I believe you will lead a fulfilling, successful, joyous life. So …
Who are you?
I am a sister, a daughter, a friend, a lover, and someone who wants to change the world through writing, coaching, and advocacy. That’s right. I want to build a legacy.
What do you do?
I write and tell stories. I create all types of content including blog posts, worksheets, presentations, and yes, books are on the horizon. Though I focus on nonfiction because truth is always stranger than fiction, I would like to write a four-part young adult fiction series and a five-part easy reader series one day.
I have a master’s degree in professional writing (equivalent to an MFA) from USC and my writing has won national awards from Writer’s Digest and the National Writer’s Association.
I coach my amazing clients. Though I specialize in career and business coaching, I often find life issues pop up such as creating good habits, developing healthier lifestyles, building self-esteem, meeting soulmates, and nurturing relationships.
I have always been good at writing resumes, nailing interviews, and career coaching friends as far back as the early 2000s. After working as a resume analyst for getinterviews.com, I started a freelance writing and consulting business in 2009. Due to the collapse of the economy and my writing expertise, I found myself attracting clients who needed new resumes and career coaching. I never marketed my business. It was extra income. In retrospect, I wish I had taken it more seriously. #lessonlearned
When I moved to Alabama in December 2014, I immediately landed a client (he found me on LinkedIn), and he changed my perspective about what I do and how much value I offer. I completed a 10-month ICF-certified coaching program to become an Associate Certified Coach (i.e., I invested $$$$ in my coaching education to be the best possible coach). I founded my business in October 2015 and started it in January 2016.
I advocate for liver cancer patients. Many of you may be thinking, huh? How does this fit into the picture? Well, trust me, it does. I raised my younger sister Adrienne from the time she was eight years old until she died from primary liver cancer at age 15. Raising her has been the biggest gift in my life, but losing her was the biggest loss in my life. She was my child, my sister, and my best friend. A year after she died, I founded Blue Faery: The Adrienne Wilson Liver Cancer Association. Running Blue Faery is my passion, not my vocation. However, it is connected to everything I do because telling patients’ stories is pivotal to inciting change and raising awareness. If you are/were a cancer patient or caregiver, please take Blue Faery’s patient advocacy e-book survey. A portion of the proceeds of my personal future book sales will go toward Blue Faery to increase funding for liver cancer research.
What do you need/want to have to be happy?
We all need food, clothing, and shelter but HOW those things appear in our lives differ for everyone. For example, I need a place to live, but it doesn’t have to be a 5000-square-foot house in Beverly Hills or a penthouse on the Upper West Side in Manhattan. In fact, I have never owned a house in my life. I will one day, but only when I know I can afford the place I want, where I want, which is ideally near a beach in a smaller town within 45 minutes of a major airport in a business-friendly state.
For now, I am happy renting a 1930s home with my boyfriend in Birmingham, Alabama. I hate the fleas, mosquitoes, and most of all the possums* but I like not spending a fortune on rent the way my ex-husband and I did in Los Angeles.
The point is … if who you are and what you do are not aligned with what you need/want in order to be happy, you may feel lost, frustrated, or angry. If buying expensive stuff makes you happy, you need to make sure what you do provides you more than enough income to pay for those things. One of the worst habits of Americans is living beyond our means. One of the biggest failures of our public educational system is not teaching students how to budget, how to save, and how to manage their money. I didn’t learn to balance my checkbook until my early twenties, and I didn’t budget in an Excel spreadsheet until my thirties. Now I know where every dollar of my income goes, but I digress.
*I will tell the story of Possumgate 2016 in a future blog post or video.
Ask yourself these questions:
- Where do you like to shop for food? (e.g., Whole Foods, Publix, Safeway, Pavilions, local farmer’s market)
- Do you eat out a lot? If so, how many times per week?
- Do you buy organic, gluten-free, or other higher-priced food?
- Where do you shop for clothes?
- Is having new clothes important to you or do you like shopping at thrift/vintage stores?
- Do you prefer to stay current with the latest fashion trends or do you maintain your own unique style? (Hint: the latter is usually cheaper in the long run.)
- Do you rent or own? What type of housing? (e.g., house, apartment, condo)
- When thinking about your home, rank these items in order of importance to you: location, size, amenities, cost.
- Can you afford all the extras? (e.g., deposit, insurance, utilities, HOA fees)
- Is architecture important to you? Do you like a certain style of home?
- What about the inside of your home? How would you decorate it?
Food, clothing, and shelter are the basics. I didn’t mention many other expenses such as transportation (e.g., car, gas), insurance (e.g., life, health), personal care, entertainment, credit cards, taxes, retirement, etc. We can discuss those items later. Part of building your BLISSS is figuring out:
- Who you are or who you want to become
- What you do or what you want to do
- What you need/want to make you happy
It’s okay and natural if your responses change over time. Join our BLISSS Builder Community to gain inside access to a group of people who are figuring it out just like you and me.